How to stay safe in gay sex?

For a long time, the issue of gay men in particular and homosexuality in general was considered a disease. That is why their personal life, development, psychological changes and sexual needs are considered taboo. Nowadays, awareness and view of homosexual groups, especially gay men, have been greatly improved. Therefore, their problems are mentioned and studied more than before. So there are ways to keep the health of gay relationships safe, you can follow the article below.

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• Same-sex relationship problem
• Definition of same-sex relationship
• Diseases that can be spread through unprotected gay sex
• The issue of gay relationships in the current period
• How to have safe gay sex?
• Facts and “word of mouth” about gay relationships
• What is the solution to gay relationships?

Same-sex relationship problem

In terms of demographics

Of the entire male population, the majority had at least some same-sex sexual experience.

• The age ranges between adolescence and old age.
• Approximately 60% of pre-adolescent boys engage in same-sex sexual activity.
• Among adults, a large group of men avoid contact and make relationships public but are clearly aware of their reactivity towards men.

Aspects of history

Historically, homosexuality has been viewed as criminal and deviant, and even a contagious disease. During the Middle Ages with the spread of Islam, the Judaism and Christianity all considered homosexuality to be abnormal.

Even today, for Islam, you can be executed if you are found to be gay. History also notes that some customs and laws of some European and American countries are sometimes very strict in detecting a person in a same-sex relationship.

It is difficult to find historical documents on the studies and extent of research on this nuance of sexuality due to the issue of prohibition. Therefore, these classifications and classifications of sexual nuances have not been fully collected yet.

Because of the lack of completeness, it is difficult to assess its importance for each individual in particular and for society as a whole. Due to taboo and confidentiality, the actual pathogenesis, origin and role of same-sex relationships are not fully understood.

For one thing, this relational phenomenon also occurs in some animal populations, especially groups of mammals. Thereby reflecting a part of human society, contributing to the general study of mankind.

Ceramic vases from ancient Greece have also depicted cases of homosexuality

Definition of same-sex relationship

Stub meaning

Homosexuality is often referred to as " gay " or "homosexual" is a broad term.

Originally, the word “homo” came from Greek. This word mistakenly emphasizes the relationship between similar individuals having sex. In the first stage, this word was just put in a stereotype, to distinguish it from the word "heterosexual". Heterosexuality or heterosexuality is a sexual relationship between individuals of different genders.

A new perspective on gay relationships

• From the early 90s of the 20th century to the present, the definition of the word "homosexual" has been increasingly expanded. Currently, the word refers to sexual activities and feelings in front of people of the same sex, to varying degrees. Homosexuality is viewed as a sexual nuance that can change during life stages.
• But as recently collected data show, only about half of the male population engages in purely heterosexual behavior. There are a few percent that are completely homosexual. Any restriction of the term homosexuality on individuals is purely logical, logically demanding. The term heterosexual is applied only to individuals who are purely heterosexual.
• This doesn't help nearly half of the world's population. These are people who have had sexual relations with or reacted emotionally or sexually to individuals of the same sex as well as of the opposite sex. In practice, of course, one must learn to recognize any combination of heterosexuality and homosexuality in the past of different individuals. Therefore, seeing as a sexual nuance can change the way a partner is chosen is the most understandable way.

Diseases that can be spread through unprotected gay sex

These are diseases with the main way of transmission being through unprotected sex. The English name is Sexually transmitted diseases (referred to as STDs for short ).

These diseases infect both heterosexual and homosexual groups. Most of these diseases are transmitted by the human body and mucous membranes often in contact with the secretions of the infected person.

The most common diseases in same-sex relationships are:

• HIV immunodeficiency disease/AIDS immunodeficiency syndrome caused by HIV
• Chlamydia infection .
• Herpes is caused by the herpes virus family. Common in sites exposed to secretions during sexual intercourse.
• Genital warts are caused by the HPV virus .
• Gonorrhea and complications of ureteral stenosis, hypogonadism due to gonorrhea infection.
• Several strains of hepatitis are caused by viruses (including hepatitis B, C, D, and E viruses).
• Syphilis and symptoms of spirochete infection.
• Trichomoniasis chlamydia.

Among them, there are many diseases that still have no treatment or preventive vaccine. Therefore, the dissemination of knowledge about safe relationships should be important, to ensure our own health.

The issue of gay relationships in the current period

Nature

The question that people ask is how is same-sex relationship different from heterosexual sex?

Actually there is no significant difference. Maybe a problem arises. If any relationship is to keep a faithful relationship with only one partner, then there is no way that sexually transmitted diseases are spreading like now, right! The problem arises and arises in any relationship, whether heterosexual or homosexual: it is having relationships with more than one person.

For gay relationships, being a man himself also has certain limitations in controlling his emotions before external temptations. There is a folk saying that "men love with their eyes". Therefore, "matching the label" and having a relationship with a 3rd party or "n" party is also more common in same-sex couples.

For the community

Because the problem is not just one person, the risk of transmission of STDs is quite possible. Gay men sometimes because of excitement or impatience in having sex that skip the safe steps. So having sex for them, then, is a risk. However, because of the barriers of awareness and prohibition, instead of blaming them, equip them with skills to reduce the risk of STDs transmission.

On the social side, more education on sex and sexuality is needed, especially in Vietnam, at school age. Must accept that: sex is a legitimate human need. Overcoming ideological barriers is a big turning point in Vietnam, which still has many barriers.

For each individual gay man

For gay men, there is a "flash" and "eagerness" in "trying fire" with times of unsafe sex. Because that is also a stimulus they seek.

It is because of human nature in general and the inability to ignore "challenges" and temptations of men in particular that the problem of STDs still cannot be reduced. Just because understanding that the goal of reducing STDs will never be able to reach the point of complete elimination from the rich sex life of the human race as a whole, does not mean giving up all efforts to educate. and convince people to take better care of themselves.

Male nature – “the male factor”

In fact, men who have sex with men have a higher risk of contracting STDs than other groups of lesbian or heterosexual women. This increased risk was found across all age groups of gay men. That simply reflects the biology and behavior of the “male factor” in general. “Male element” or “male behavior” refers to communication relationships and patterns of sexual behavior with many people and objects.

In fact, there is no exact word in Vietnamese, so the word "nam" is used to refer to high and difficult-to-control desires. It might be a bit unfair to men, but this is just semantics. In men, there is actually a tendency to prioritize having sex with more objects, than choosing a partner in women. This also happened in the gay group. They are more easily stimulated by attractions and temptations.

Gay men have a longer relationship with their partners than other groups. At the same time, the mix and ageless are also more. A simple comment: studies show that gay men have more "open" and more complex sexual relationships than other groups. Therefore, the risk of contracting sexually transmitted diseases is also higher. And so this group should be a priority in sex and sexuality education.

How to have safe gay sex?

So what types of relationships are there in homosexual relationships?

Gay relationship "bare"

• That is, "outside" sex, where only hands or parts of the body come into contact with each other. There is no direct contact between the genitals. Also do not come into contact with the other person's secretions. Use your hands to stimulate each other's genitals. “Handjob” (slang) is the word used to describe this action.
• This is the use of hands or objects, caressing and caressing the other person. Don't go any further. No contact with each other's mucous membranes and secretions (including kissing).
• The level of transmission of STDs: almost zero.
• This is the safest way to have sex. However, it is almost impossible to bring about orgasm and stability in gay couples.

Manual penis stimulation is a safe way

Gay sex with sex toys

• That is, using any object to stimulate sexual pleasure. These can be dildos, sex dolls, etc. Objects with a long shape similar to a penis. Vibrators and electric machines are also classified in this group.
• The level of infection with STDs: from 0 to 1.1%.
• It depends on how you use the toy. If only stroking the skin area, then the level of infection gradually becomes zero. If the item goes through places where there is contact with secretions: mouth, anus, tip of the penis, and then uses it for another person, of course the possibility infection is there. To be on the safe side, if you want, you can cover the item with a condom. Replace the condom each time you use it, or use it for someone else.

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Overmouth gay sex (slang: Blowjob)

• Use your mouth to make contact with your partner's body parts. It can be lips, chin, neck, breasts or sensitive points on the penis and anus.
• In this case, of course, there was direct bodily contact between the two individuals. The transmission of STDs depends on the type of disease. The infection is caused by scratches, ulcers in the oral mucosa spread through contact with saliva, with the mucosa of the opponent. You might be surprised how low the infection rate is for HIV. Just lying at < 1.3%. no="" yes="" answer="" solve="" like="" clear="" clear.="" idea="" ant="" put="" out="" is="" lysosome ="" in="" water="" foam="" do="" any="" active="" virus="">
• But this method does not prevent other STIs. Such as syphilis, hepatitis B virus, hepatitis C virus, gonorrhea, Chlamydya, HPV and herpes. The risk of infection is higher if you swallow your partner's semen. Because from the esophagus down, the cells are mucosal cells, without a protective layer.
• So how? Neither way works. Suggestions are given to use a condom in the mouth or gargle with an antibacterial agent after having oral sex. The infection rate after using this method is at 0.02%

Anal gay sex

In this section, I will describe it a bit more carefully because it happens quite commonly in same-sex couples. The risk of contracting STDs in this way is also highest.

Description

Some of you might be surprised at this, but it's pretty common for men (whether they're gay or not). You can refer to the article on prostate stimulation to better understand this. Anal sex reaches the prostate gland . Therefore, will highly stimulate deep sensation in men. In which a person plays the role of "donor" or "top" (in slang) will bring his penis into the partner, through the anus. Similarly, the other person will act as "receiver" or "bottom" (in slang) will receive the penis through his anus.

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This will obviously come in contact with each other's secretions. Specifically: the "donor" of the penis mucosa will come into contact with fluid, even blood, secretions from the anus "recipient". The "recipient" side will face the risk of coming into contact with the "donor's" semen. This is considered the most intimate contact among gay men.

Anal intercourse is the closest way to stimulate and reach the G-spot in men and often occurs during gay sex.

Risks and causes

The risks are also highest, with a 1.2-nearly 5% risk of contracting STDs. There are even some American studies, raising the possibility of infection up to 11.3%.

Cause: The anal area has a completely different structure than the vagina in women. The lining of the rectum is very thin, easily scratched during sex. In addition, the reflex mechanism that closes the anus when the penis is stimulated also makes it difficult to have sex. Stimulating the penis activates the mechanism to close the anus. Therefore, with rough penetration, the penis is capable of tearing the anal opening. From there come into contact with each other's blood and secretions.

Measures and results

Measures: Stimulating slowly and gently, step by step with lubricating gel to widen the anal opening. Penetrate the penis gently and always use a condom. Lubricants should also be used that are not made from oil, to avoid corrosion and the possibility of condom tearing during sex.

Even with such measures, the rate of infection with STDs will be reduced to about 0.03%. Except for herpes and HPV, which can appear around the anal margin, or on the pubic area of ​​the penis. And from there it spreads when there is a skin abrasion.

Video call, phone call, chat – live image transmission

With the information technology age, the exchange takes place quickly. Some people have a hobby of "voyeurism". That is, it is possible to achieve orgasm by watching the sexual activity that takes place in front of you. Also taking advantage of video calls, sexual activity also occurs among men in same-sex relationships.

How: Possibly by visiting certain websites containing pornographic and relational films. Or there are software on computers or apps (on smartphones) that have the ability to contact partners directly with pictures. In this way, sexual activity can take place between two people who are far apart. Of course, this activity is mostly stealthy and without any direct contact with the partner's secretions, so there is absolutely no possibility of transmitting STDs.

The use of software that allows voice calls is sometimes abused to satisfy sexual needs

Facts and “word of mouth” about gay relationships

In fact, many stories are told to ensure the safety of sex between gay men. But there's a lot of inaccuracies in it. I would like to mention a few things below.

Does oral sex not transmit STDs?

As described above. The oral mucosa is likely to have microscopic abrasions that you sometimes don't even notice. Because of that, it will be the gateway for diseases transmitted by secretions.

Another reason is the risk of swallowing or coming into contact with semen released during sex. A small part can also cause disease.

Can I use an HIV test before sex and then have sex without a condom?

In fact, condoms are the simplest and most effective way to prevent STIs in men who have sex with men. However, for some reason "entanglement" is sometimes described as "discomfort" or hindering orgasm. Not using a condom feels closer, but of course it's not safe.

A rumor about HIV tests on the market. Some tests only need to scan the lining of the mouth to give a result for possible HIV infection. The problem is that most of these tests are not very accurate. It is entirely possible to overlook people living with HIV who are on stable treatment or in the window period. Another problem is that this test is completely inadequate to know if your partner has other diseases or not. Diseases such as hepatitis B, hepatitis C or syphilis, gonorrhea, HPV... are completely contagious. It is therefore important to note: HIV is not the only danger.

Rapid HIV test does not guarantee 100% accuracy and cannot recognize other STIs

If you take ARVs for prevention, you can completely avoid using condoms

• Currently, there are antiretroviral drugs for the prevention of HIV-infected cases. This rumor arose when this drug was first released on the market. Some people say to each other: when having sex, just taking 1 pill will not be able to infect.
• A fact that is somewhat scary due to ignorance is widespread in the gay community. ARV drugs are indicated in cases where people are at risk of infection: such as surgery, blood transfusion, needle contact, etc. To be effective, they must be used continuously for 30 days and the side effects of the drug are completely eliminated. lol… it's a bit comfortable. Headache, fatigue, jaundice, liver failure, etc. are quite common side effects. The level of prevention of the drug still does not guarantee you 100% protection from HIV infection. Medicines also do not completely prevent infection with other STDs.
• Therefore, consider: a condom is only from 2-15 thousand VND for one time of sex. Or face the risk of contracting other STDs.

What is the solution to gay relationships?

In Vietnam, the fact that a person has a homosexual relationship is still viewed with stigma by society. Although this time is more open than before. Men, especially boys, are less concerned about reproductive health than women. Therefore, within the scope of the article, a few solutions would like to be given as follows:

More open in awareness

• It is important to be aware of and educated about same-sex relationships. Should it be included in school knowledge at the elementary level. Surely many readers have mixed opinions, I myself would like to accept, but should also give medical opinions for everyone's reference.
• Boys today hit puberty earlier than before. Many boys start puberty around the age of 9-10 (ie, grades 4-5). Therefore, feelings about the partner and the object of investigation also begin to form. Instead of being afraid of the sensitive issue of "drawing a way for the deer to run", why not draw a straight and right path right from the beginning for the children? Is it better to let the children "swim by themselves" or learn by themselves in the style of "born with elephants and grass"? It is because of the toddler stage that they need to learn that they are not sure. Therefore, they are very receptive to incorrect matters.
• In particular, boys in Vietnam are not cared for as much as girls. The simple act of a person coming to visit, visiting a son at home, stroking his genitals with his hand and saying: "Let's see how big he is" is also a form of child sexual abuse. Therefore, raising awareness and early education for children plays an extremely important role in protecting themselves.

Teaching boys about love in a “traditional” way

The word "traditional" here is not male-female. Here, please understand how to understand the relationship before living together.

Vietnam has traditionally lived a more closed life. Before the wedding, there are wedding ceremonies, engagement ceremonies, and then the wedding ceremony. Same goes for gay relationships. Need to determine to come together long term and step by step. Get to know each other, and need time to define their feelings. Then you can find happiness.

Serious attitude in relationship

In any relationship, to be safe and long, there is nothing like a serious attitude. Having sex with a partner can not spread STDs.

In fact, it is ideal. Because if people are completely "one partner" for life, how can STDs still exist today? Human sex life is very rich. Only being able to keep a calm head when accepting a relationship can guarantee your safety.

Honesty in relationship

If you have "missed" an outsider in the relationship, then it is essential to confide in each other and wait to see the results. If love is really strong, then we can overcome that problem together. It is necessary to accept, human life cannot avoid temptation.

However, only an ideal person can avoid such temptations. Men sometimes find it difficult to control their emotions and excitement with new relationships. So it is essential to be honest with each other, and above all, be safe and use condoms when having sex.

What should I do if I have contracted an STD or have had unprotected sex before?

• What you need to do is stay calm. You need to go to the doctor and get advice from medical experts and specialists.
• Today, counseling and testing centers have appeared. Centers to support communities and people living with HIV are also more numerous and more open. You can visit. If STDs are detected early, treatment is essential to avoid further spread in the community.
• Even HIV, new generation drugs have been tested and applied continuously. Today, if life changes become healthy, people with HIV have almost no symptoms and can live like normal people.

"Near the ink is black…"

• The fact that gay men are considered to have a more "loose" life than other couples. Sometimes a bad side appears that is unsafe relationships.
• Here are a few cases. Child sexual abuse is still not taken seriously in Vietnam. The Vietnamese gay life is generally not recognized in society. Same-sex marriage is still not recognized. Employment and gay society also have many dark sides. Use of drugs, stimulants or addictive substances persists. Having sex in groups, with many people at the same time increases the risk of spreading STDs.
• It is therefore necessary to stay away from such open-minded gay parties. Stay away from stimulants. Have a healthy life. Enhance your self-esteem. Exercise, exercise, sports to improve health. When that is achieved, it is obvious that STDs will decrease.
• Reality: quite difficult and no way 100% effective. Gay men in particular and humanity in general still face long-term STDs.
• In 2015, a poster was posted with the title:

Each time you sleep with someone, you also sleep with his past

(Every time you sleep (have sex) with anyone, you sleep (have sex) with everyone that the other person has slept with (having sex) with).)

Three impressive posters in 2015 about HIV prevention

Therefore, there are still quite a few challenges ahead. Creating and keeping a safe relationship, as well as ensuring health, needs more attention. Especially the gay group , still less interested in society. Raise education and awareness, improve your own health, do research and have serious relationships. All those factors will give you a happy and healthy life.